10 Tips For Dealing With Rejection

We have all faced some kind of rejection in our live, no matter if it’s in love, your career, friends, school or anything else. Rejection is not something that should affect how happy you are.

It does not bring you pleasure, but it certainly does not take away the happiness in your life.As people, we’re born into this world in a state of happiness. It’s our neutral state. The only time we suffer is when we think we’ve lost something that we need. This article – will help you to better understand what rejection is, and how and why you make yourself feel unhappy when rejected.

Learn to accept. Acknowledge that anyone can be rejected, no matter who they are, and who you are. Though you would have liked it not to happen but it did.

Understand that your feelings of sorrow are only self-delusions. You believe that you needed that person in your life to feel happy. This isn’t true. Being around a person, talking to people, kissing a girlfriend, these are all just pleasures. They bring you temporary happiness, but are not permanent. You think that these pleasures are what true happiness is, and you fool yourself into believing you should feel terrible because you don’t have them. They become an addiction that only brings you more sorrow in the long run.

Understand that these things are all just temporary. They come and go and have no permanent place in life. When you understand this, you’ll understand that they aren’t the source of your happiness. You’ll realize that you don’t really have any needs for these things, and as a result not having them cannot make you unhappy. Happiness is the default feeling that people are born into. When you have no superficial needs you crave, you will not make yourself suffer.

Let go. When you let go of all these superficial needs, you’ll come to realize that there really isn’t a reason to be unhappy. Life is not about being sad and looking for things to make you happy. It’s case of being happy and taking part in pleasures that give you a boost to your already happy life.

Do not avoid rejection and pretend it is something that you must learn to “live with”. When you free yourself from these delusions of need, you free yourself from the pain associated with rejection. Rejection does not cause pain, friend. Only you do.

If someone rejects you, respect their wishes and wish them only good in life. You do not need to completely avoid them. They are not a necessity to life, but this doesn’t mean you should hate them. Why? Because it will bring you more pleasure to wish good for others, than to hate them. Try it. Hatred inflicts pain onto your own life.

Do not blame anyone. If you’re rejected by a person, do not blame or hate them, even if they were nasty about it. Once a relationship has ended, there is no point crying and making a big deal about it, since you do not need it to feel happy. You’ll may be disappointed that the pleasures have ended with that person, but realize you didn’t need them in the first place, and wish them only good in their lives. You’ll feel much better if you hold friendly feelings towards someone, than if you hate them.

If your opinion does not change about the person, then there is no need to avoid them. If you still get some pleasure out of speaking to them, then why leave? It cannot hurt you if they decide to not speak to you, because you haven’t missed out on the real happiness in your life. You’ve missed out on the temporary boost that being with them would have given you.

You may hope that they will change their mind. That is fine and acceptable, but should not feel you need them to. You will only end up torturing yourself. If a person rejected you because they clearly were not attracted to you that will likely not change. It’s best to simply accept that it’s over, and move on.

Always remember, you do not need anything to feel happy. Things can only bring you temporary happiness. The only permanent happiness is found in understanding this and simply being alive