Advice Corner
10 Ways To Take Full Control Of Your Life
Your purpose is not about whether you are a “fit” or a misfit. Your purpose is tied to a need or void in the world. The fact is, you are here to meet a need of someone or something. If you look to fill a void in the world, your purpose for existence will manifest itself—and that will make you the right person in the right place at the right time. In other words, it will make you the right fit and this shift enables you to gain control over your life.
So, here are 10 ways to take full control of your life:
1. Figure Out What You Really Want (and Really Need)
Place your ultimate goal at the top, your next biggest want and need below it, your next three and four below them. You now have 10 goals to focus on nurturing and flourishing. Now write down three ways you will work towards achieving or maintaining these goals and carry both exercises around with you to use as reminders to stay on-track.
2. Stop Making (and Accepting) Excuses
If you have someone in your life who chooses to excuse unhealthy behavior instead of addressing it, stand firm and let them know you’re there to help, not enable. Ask the same of those around you when it comes to overcoming your own unhealthy habits.
3. Strengthen Your Weaknesses
No one gets to adulthood without having packed a few bags and “issues” are usually traumas, fears and misconceptions that need to be addressed and sorted out. You could just continue to allow these things to impact your life, job and relationships negatively or you can choose to take a proactive approach.
No one gets to adulthood without having packed a few bags and “issues” are usually traumas, fears and misconceptions that need to be addressed and sorted out. You could just continue to allow these things to impact your life, job and relationships negatively or you can choose to take a proactive approach.
4. Be Prepared To Walk Away
Whether it is a deal on a bag you want, a job or a relationship that lacks respect, knowing that you are not so controlled by your desires or fear that you’re willing to ignore your good senses or self-respect offers a great sense of peace and freedom.
Whether it is a deal on a bag you want, a job or a relationship that lacks respect, knowing that you are not so controlled by your desires or fear that you’re willing to ignore your good senses or self-respect offers a great sense of peace and freedom.
5.Accept yourself.
The first step to succeeding in anything is to know and accept your strengths and limitations. Show compassion for yourself. Accept not only the good but the bad too. Always strive to improve the things you don’t like or that you struggle with.
6. Consider your values. You need to determine what your values are so that you can get your priorities straight. Think about what and who is important to you — Is it freedom, happiness, equality, money, your family? Write down a list of your values (at least 10 of them), preferably in order from most important to least important.
7. Cultivate good character traits. When you improve beneficial character traits and virtues, you will gain more control over your life. This is because having these traits will encourage you to obtain your goals and taken on other qualities that you want. Good traits to work on for this purpose are courage, temperance, wisdom, and self-discipline.
8. Create goals.
Find out what you really want out of life this year — a house, a good job, a healthy relationship? Write each goal down, and then come up with ideas that can help you accomplish that goal. Write these ideas down into positive action statements, such as, “I will save up money.” Then, go over all your goals and ideas, and decide on three goals and three action statements for each one that you will do.
9. Get control of your emotions. Emotions can be wonderful experiences but expressing them improperly can harm your ability to attain goals and damage relationships. You need to learn how to understand, process and respond to your feelings in a way that is healthy and helpful to you
10.Let go of baggage.
Sometimes negative thoughts or experiences can be tough to let go — you may have a feeling that they define you, or they may be so habitual you may be afraid to be without them, or you may simply not know how to let go. You must learn that you are not your problems and that they do not determine your worth as a person or how you make choices today.
