In sociological terms ‘gender role’ refers to the characteristics and behaviours that different cultures attribute to the sexes and use to box “different” sexes. What it means to be a ‘real man’ in any culture requires male sex and masculinity plus what our various cultures define as masculine characteristics and behaviours and bodily features, likewise a ‘real woman’ needs female sex and feminine characteristics, being the typical wife material.
When a male’s masculinity is questioned they are often accused of being homosexual. This is believed even though in ancient times the love between two males was more meaningful than that of a heterosexual couple. At the same time, a female who can care for herself is frequently criticised for it, and sometimes labeled a lesbian because society cannot accept a female who does not need a male.
While we are born with biological features that determine our sexuality, our behaviours and choices decide our gender. Like the picture at the beginning of this article, you can’t put a face to a person’s gender but you can tell a person’s sexuality by their physical attributes. The sooner we learn to accept and understand gender over sexuality the sooner we’ll be accepting of people’s relations and choices they make. Make your personal choices based on your gender and not because of sexual orientation.
Create your own identity.