New ‘Playing Dad’ Film Challenges Stereotypes About Fatherhood Through the Power of Play

Too often, fatherhood is boxed into a narrow definition — financial provider, disciplinarian, distant authority figure. But a new film by social change organisation Heartlines is shifting that narrative. Titled Playing Dad, the latest instalment in the Fathers Matter film anthology explores a different, more hands-on version of fatherhood — one where play is just as important as provision.

Set to launch on the Fathers Matter website and HeartlinesZA’s YouTube channel on Friday, 13 June — just ahead of Father’s Day — Playing Dad invites fathers to reimagine what it means to be present, loving, and actively engaged in their children’s lives.

A Carpenter, A Crisis, A Connection

At the heart of the film is Mpendulo, a strict, traditional father played by Vincent Mahlape. He’s a hardworking carpenter with a clear sense of duty — but little experience with nurturing. When his wife is called away for a family emergency, Mpendulo finds himself solely responsible for their young son, Ndumiso (played by 6-year-old Siyamthanda Nxumalo). What follows is an emotional, sometimes humorous journey as Mpendulo confronts his discomfort with play and redefines what it means to truly connect with his child.

Through Mpendulo’s story, Playing Dad explores the internal struggle many fathers face: “Can I be playful with my child and still earn his respect?” The film answers with a resounding yes, showing that play can be a powerful form of bonding and learning — not just for children, but for dads, too.

Why Play Matters

“Five years ago, we released research showing that many fathers struggle with parenting simply because they lack the tools and confidence,” says Fathers Matter Project Coordinator Lereko Mfono, who is also a father himself. “Many men want to be involved, but they don’t know how — and they fear losing respect by showing softness or playfulness.”

Yet science — and experience — tells a different story. Between birth and age five, a child’s brain goes through rapid development. Active, safe play helps build critical neural connections that shape who they become as adults. And dads have a key role to play in that.

The film also takes a hard look at how societal issues, including the prevalence of gender-based violence in South Africa, have created mistrust around men being involved in early childhood development (ECD). “Men spending time with children is too often met with suspicion,” Mfono explains. “This film challenges that thinking and urges ECD centres to create spaces that welcome fathers.”

Reimagining Gender Roles

Fikile Poka, an ECD practitioner and Fathers Matter Regional Representative, echoes the film’s core message: that men can — and should — challenge outdated ideas about masculinity.

“Care and nurturing aren’t women’s work,” she says. “When fathers engage in active, safe play, they’re not only supporting their children’s growth — they’re modelling a new, healthy version of masculinity.”

And the benefits extend far beyond childhood. Research shows that the presence of a positive, involved father figure reduces the chances of boys becoming perpetrators and girls becoming victims of violence later in life. Playing Dad is part of a broader movement to break the cycle by showing what respectful, connected, emotionally intelligent fatherhood looks like.

Community, Conversation, and Support

With a cast that includes Luyanda Mzazi, Neo Ntlatleng, Dimakatso Lebeoana, and Pheello Sehlolo, Playing Dad is more than a film — it’s a conversation starter. It challenges stereotypes, uplifts untold stories, and offers a model for a more compassionate, present form of fatherhood.

The Fathers Matter website offers a range of free resources for dads, and those looking for support can also access the Fathers Matter Coach, a WhatsApp-based tool that offers real-time advice and encouragement. To join, simply WhatsApp “hi” to 060 058 2107 or visit fathersmatter.org.za.

As Father’s Day approaches, Playing Dad serves as a timely reminder that fatherhood is not just about showing up financially — it’s about showing up emotionally, too. It’s about learning, unlearning, and rediscovering the joy of playing, laughing, and growing together. And it’s a powerful call to action for dads everywhere: your presence matters. Your play matters. You matter.