Tips on finding your Valentine

1. Be complete with past relationships.

Drop the baggage from the past. Let go of hurts and resentments towards anyone from your past. Forgive and reconcile with that ex-partner who was so mean to you. The true test is to meet such a person from your past and to not feel any negative thoughts.

2. Take stock of how you have behaved in previous relationships.

Since you are single, by definition your past relationships have not worked out for whatever reason. And like it or not, that makes you at least 50% responsible for them not working out.
Get clarity on what you contributed to those relationships not working out. Be kind to yourself as you do this. Do not make it an excuse to beat your self up all over again.

3. Review your beliefs about relationships.

What do you think should happen at different stages – from courtship to living together? What are your entrenched beliefs about the opposite sex? For example, from your cultural heritage, what are the expected roles and duties of a partner?

4. Get clear about what you want in a relationship.

Make the fulfillment of your short term and long term needs the criteria for choosing a partner.

5. Define and get clear about what you want in your ideal relationship and partner.

Be realistic, and ask what your needs are rather than your wants. What must your relationship have? What are the absolute essentials for you to thrive?

6. Socialize and have fun so as to create a varied, rich life and to be part of a healthy supportive community, and to enhance your life.

You will therefore focus not so much on meeting your partner and more on creating a rich vibrant life, one which will be so attractive to a potentially dream catch.

7. Be a Confident Man.
A woman first wants to assess how you value your own life and how well you would be leading it. The golden rule is that if you believe in yourself, only then she would believe in you. She feels that a person who values himself will also value her. Her trust if won would be a virtual rock against which you can lean for the rest of your life. And for women themselves, it will do wonders to their love lives, if they could follow Emerson’s advice: Trust men and they will be true to you, treat them greatly and they will show themselves great!

8. Be a good listen.
She is first looking for a friend, someone who can listen to everything she has to say. Her topic would range from fashion, personal and may be professional problems. Just be with her. Ultimately you might not be able to really do anything for her but give a sympathetic patient hearing, which will take a long way in winning her trust.

9. Do not reveal too much personal details about yourself especially any important information until you are sure you can trust that person.

Revealing too much on the first day will make her/ him disappear for good just take time to know each other, when time is right for both of you then spill all the beans.

10. Be loyal to your new partner.

Make sure your partner knows you only got your eye on them and you are dating them that will boost their confidence and they’ll trust you more and open up to you.