How To Get Over A Breakup

Breakups can be so rough, and they can be amicable; no matter what, no one really wants to go through them. The loss of your relationship can bring on intense heartache and stress. But if you’re looking for some help getting through it and want some suggestions about how to make it a little easier getting over a breakup, read on…

Don’t rethink your decision
If the breakup was your decision, keep in mind that only thinking about all the good times you had with your partner may cause you to forget the reasons why you broke it off, try not to second-guess the situation if the decision to end things was not yours. It’s very common to romanticize the good parts of the relationship, convincing yourself that maybe the bad parts weren’t so bad after all, that maybe you could just live with them. Or that maybe if your ex would know just how you feel, he/she wouldn’t want to break up after all. Don’t play this game with yourself. Accept the situation and work on moving forward.
Recap
Your past relationship didn’t work out, and there’s a reason for that. Figure it out. Maybe he was too selfish and didn’t put enough time into the relationship. Maybe he had crazy in-laws. Maybe he was a cheating bastard. Whatever the reason, check that off your list, so that next time you date someone you’ll know which qualities to look for and watch out for.
Delete
It may sound cruel, but it’s the only way. You need to completely cut him out of your life and that means remove his number from your phone (no memorizing allowed!), unfriend him on facebook, delete him from your Bbm contacts, and don’t ask your friends to spy on him for you.

Be Selfish
Do all the things that you couldn’t do before because you had to take someone else into consideration. You know you allowed to visit your former lover, right? So do it. Stay out till 4 AM without feeling guilty. Spend your money on whatever you want. No one will be there to tell you otherwise.
Rebound
Age old trick my friends. The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else. Now don’t do every guy around the block, but explore your options and have some fun. That’s the beauty of being single right?
Cope with the pain appropriately
It’s okay to feel like you have messed up – accepting responsibility for your mistakes or shortcomings is healthy. On the other hand, you must also accept that you are a good person, and that you did your best and you’re not the only one who made mistakes. Of course, a stage of denial is completely natural, but acceptance is the key to being able to start moving on.
Remove memory triggers
There are all kinds of things that remind you of your ex – a song, a smell, a sound, a place. Once the grieving period has had some time to process, don’t dwell on painful feelings or memories. There are probably things that are pushing your buttons without your conscious recognition. If you have a keepsake, such as a watch or piece of jewellery that was given to you by your ex, and it’s a reminder of the good aspects of your relationship, there’s nothing wrong with keeping such a thing, but for the time being, try putting it away for later, when you’ve given yourself some time and space.
Remind yourself of the negative things
This is probably the best one, do not necessarily think all negative things, but think of the “turn-offs” of that person. For example, the LESS attractive you find them, the quicker you’ll get over them. Your mentality has to strictly be all bad characteristics about this person, WITHOUT sounding hateful or “hating on this person, it might be, he/she never bought anything for my birthday, he/she had the ugliest smile I’ve ever seen, and he/she had the most annoying laugh.
Be Happy
Lastly find happiness in other areas of your life. The relationship was only one part of your life, but you still have friends and family. He/she was not your happiness you define your own happiness. There are personal pleasures that you can always enjoy on your own. Indulge in those things now. As they say, the best revenge is living well.