Dating A Guy Or Girl With A Baby
The baby mama and baby daddy drama we all don’t want to get involved in. would you date someone who has a kid or kids? What if they are super cute, gorgeous, funny smart has a great job- you know the picture perfect prince charming or princess Cinderella. He or she would be perfect right except for the fact they have a kid. Alright what if he is Brad Pitt or Beyonce would you still date them?
Dating someone with a baby can have its pros and cons. While some of you would not date a guy or girl with a kid some wouldn’t turn down dating a baby mama or daddy. They would say if you really, like someone and they really, really like you, why let the fact that he has a kid come between the two of you? This is very true but you also not forget that in most cases, dating a baby daddy or mama means not only dating him/her, but the baby mama or baby daddy as well. So, really, your relationship wouldn’t just be you and your partner, but you, your partner, the kid, the Ex. So here are some of the challenges involved:
Dating a guy with a baby:
• His baby mama will take his money and yours too! The man can’t afford to buy you nice things because his baby mama is raising his child and if you marry him she will now have access to his income and yours too.
• His kid doesn’t like you! The little bambino will bad mouth you just because you’re not his/her mama.
• You will never be Number 1. If he’s a good man then you will always play second fiddle to his kids. And if he puts you before his kids, then he’s not good to begin with.
• The joy of both of you experiencing bringing a child into the world for the first time is gone, no explanation needed.
• You will end up being the emergency baby sitter. It was cool the first time he asked you to watch his kid real quickly while he slipped to the store. 15 minute store runs will turn into 2 hours while he’s with the boys and next thing you know, spending the weekend with his kids at your place, eating up your food and you can’t smack their little butts cause the going to “tell their mommy on you”.
Dating a girl with a baby
• You will compete for her time, single moms may be more approachable and eager to date you, but that doesn’t mean that she’ll have lots of time for you, you will be competing for her time with the kid.
• You will have to decide together when to get to know her kids. Your date knows it’s bad parenting to bring a succession of men into her kids’ lives. So, despite the fact that her kids are the most important thing in the world to her, you may find yourself being excluded from this realm for quite some time.
• When you give an instruction to a child, they’re likely to say “you’re not my dad.” Think through your response to this challenge carefully, and ahead of time, as it may set the tone for the rest of your relationship with the child.
• Dating a woman with a child can get quite expensive. After you have settled into a relationship and you know her kids, dates often become “family” outings. Instead of going for pizza and beer with your girlfriend, you are likely to end up at spur with the kids in tow. Forget going to an amusement park unless the kids get to come along.
• Intimate physical relations can become tricky when you are dating a woman with kids. Some women are reluctant to bring you home for an overnight because of the possibly negative message that will send to the kids. She is also not likely to want to come over to your place because that involves finding someone to watch the kids.
To sum up, this is not to say that you should, at all costs, avoid dating a woman or man with kids. Instead, be well aware of the challenges and problems it can present, and weigh up whether or not this is the type of relationship that could work for you.
